Thursday, June 24, 2010

A Knock on the Door

It was summer on Neff Road and the Loxley family was home.....all of them. It was one of the last times we would all be gathered there. Sydney was just a baby then. Now she is 11. Gabby, the youngest grandchild, was not yet a thought. Dad had passed away the previous September.

Not often did the entire family get together since we were all scattered from the east to west coast. The grandchildren seldom got together and the great grandchildren were just getting to know the rest of the family. We knew that having Mom was a treasure we couldn't keep.

Extended family was so common on Neff Road that we didn't think much about it growing up. Not until we had all moved away did we realize how much we missed in not being within driving distance. Babies were born, weddings took place, graduations happened and only the funerals drew us all back together. Cousins kept in touch through a round robin letter. Sisters cherished each moment together on occasional visits, emailing, Facebooking, long weekly calls.

I miss morning coffee with my sisters, someone to just drop by on the spur of the moment. I miss not having my sisters close enough to go together to plays, shopping and just hanging. Distance has given us homes away from commitments and frictions that families share. It has given us our own lives and sometimes better jobs. We have our own identities away from our roots.

I have been away from my family since 1971. Not until I became a senior citizen did I realize how much I had missed. There is no place, there are no friends, there is no life as dear as that which would be with my sisters and my children. My children keep me in one place....a state I love. But my heart is torn in two missing the sisters who know me best and are my best friends. I want back that time away from them. I want that knock at the door and a sister standing on the other side of the door.

Time, slow down. I need more of my family and the traditions of Neff Road.

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